After a 2 month break we're back to work as Emry has started play practice for the winter performance of 'Fiddler on the Roof'.
The winter play is typically a smaller cast than the spring play. Additionally some of the heavy hitters have graduated or gone on to other performance venues. This coupled with the fact that Emry has honed her acting chops with her big role in 'The Wizard of Oz', and we all thought she was a shoo in for any part she wanted.
We thought wrong.
Let the tears and teen angst begin. When the parts were posted Friday evening at 5pm Emry rushed to the computer to see who she would play - more specifically to see her name by the character she wanted. It wasn't there, or by any other role.
She is grouped under 'Papas'. Not only does she not have a name but she is a man. A dad. A papa.
I found Emry on her bed crying. Emry never cries. She was crushed. My heart broke for her. What could I say, what could I do? I briefly thought about talking to the director, picking her brain about this decision. But then I realized I am not that mom and I don't want to be that mom.
Glenn was of course the voice of reason as he said "She just needs to get over it".
After crying for a few minutes and feeling sorry for herself she was over it. As hard and fast as the tears came they were gone and Emry is happy to go to play practice, sing, dance and just be a part of it all.
1 heartbreak over with, - only a hundred million more to go.
I commend you for not being THAT mom, but ugh, I can only imagine how hard it is to watch kids go through such things. But then again, they do get over it awfully fast :)
ReplyDeleteWell done for not stepping in. I think kids need these disappointments so that they know what this feels like. One day they won't get the job or promotion they want and you can't call the boss for them.
ReplyDeleteA+ to you Marie!!!
Oh and you do still have time to enter my Kashi giveaway. It is open until Midnight (I fixed the rafflecopter because I had the time wrong on it originally).
Have a Happy Thursday!
Thanks I will. And yes I agree completely with you. This is pretty much her first disappointment and if I always step in she's going to have a heart attack in a few years when she doesn't get asked to the prom or whatever. Breathe, step back, repeat.
DeleteAah poor thing, reality does BITE!! Love you guys
ReplyDeleteOh MAN. I remember being in 4th grade and trying out for the part of Pochontus...thinking that I could really sing.
ReplyDeleteBAM.
Reality. I was a rock or something.
Ouch. You would be horrified to hear me sing.
DeleteMy first thought is that you're so lucky Emry doesn't cry. My whole family cries...a lot. Even Kalen has to hold back the tears and he's a deacon now. I hope he doesn't see this. Second, you're a the best mom. I've had to try so hard not to be that mom, not always succeeding. I learn so much from you. You are so great Msrie, and Emry is so blessed to have you for herself. Third, I'm cracking up over Glenn. This is really true, so many disappointments to come. This is a good reminder for me to remember what kind of parent I want to be. Love you,
ReplyDeleteShauna
Men are good when it comes to dealing with the girl drama for sure huh :) I am a good mom hopefully getting better day by day, but if I am the BEST mom in your eyes......... so be it!
DeleteOh, poor girl! I've been in her position many times. I'm glad she got over it quickly!
ReplyDeletePoor thing - that's always tough to find out someone else didn't think you were as right for the part as you did. That happened to me many times, so I know the feeling! I'm glad she bounced back quickly though - and there will be many, many more opportunities in the future to play something other than a man. ;o) She looks like a natural performer!
ReplyDeleteShe'll be glad to know she's in good company.
DeleteFiddler on the Roof was the one casting I cried over! I was a girl, but they had to make up a name for me (because they made up the part), and they decided on "Bluma".
ReplyDeleteI am not sure if that would make you feel special or totally not!
DeleteI guess that one doesn't get two lead roles in a row. Handled well.
ReplyDeleteYep, the first of many heartbreaks, but it does make you stronger. Hugs to your baby!!
ReplyDeleteYou handled the situation in the most fitting way. I treat your blog as a advice book that I can refer to as far as parenting goes. I would also never want to be THAT mom. this is a post I am going to always refer back to in my head when I encounter such tricky situations
ReplyDeleteThere have been a few times I've had to tell my oldest to just get over it. Can't have everything your way, no matter how much we want it.
ReplyDelete