Saturday, January 12, 2013
Worth the Work
Good grades are important to me, more the effort it takes to actually get the grades whether good or average is what I am proud of, & what I'd like to reward. But then I have this conflict in my head that I am taking away my child's inherent ability to be proud on their own terms instead of mine.
Therefore I am not a parent who gives money or rewards based on grades. I think that can definitely work for some kids, but I don't feel right about doing it myself. I want my kids to feel that they are making us proud and meeting our expectations, but at a base level I want them to take complete ownership of their grades and strive to do better to create a better future for themselves and society. I want them to experience the joy that comes with a job well done, with Glenn & I out of the equation.
That said last night getting Drumsticks (the ice cream, not the chicken) at Walmart, Emry picked up a pack of gum and said it was her favorite flavor and so hard to find and could she pay me back at home. I said sure and then a minute later picked up a second pack, a little 'good job on your grades' I would surprise her with at home. Then a second later inspiration overrode the cheapskate in me and I grabbed another pack.
So there you have it. In the Wallwork home straight A's gets you 3 packs of gum.
And if you think that's no big deal you seriously underestimate Emry's love for gum.